Sunday, June 17, 2012

Accepting What We're Trying Our Best to Ignore

There are times when things happen that are just too painful to process - and so we don't. Instead, we lock the hurt away deep inside and try our best to do anything but work it through. In essence, we are paralyzed with fear, although we may not know it at the time. When we hide our feelings about what has happened from ourselves, we are freezing a part of our heart and soul. 

Accepting what we don't want to accept is no easy task. But it also takes a lot of energy to keep  these feelings at bay. Resistance is hard work. We must allow ourselves to look at what we don't want to look if we are to live a life in which every part of us is fully engaged.

Take time during your spiritual practice each morning to ask God for the willingness to go where it hurts. Pray for clarity and acceptance, keeping in mind that life is unfolding as it should. Breathe deep and work on releasing the deeply-felt anger, disappointment, sadness or pain. Trust that God is there to support you through it all.

We think of James Taylor's song, Frozen Man, as a wonderful metaphor about thawing one's heart after something difficult has happened and coming fully back to life. Listen to this beautiful song about what it feels like to "come around again."


  1. Hi Lois,

    I agree that resistance is hard work! Those feelings that we try to hide never really go away, they're always going to be there until we deal with them one way or another. My new motto is "feal the fear and do it anyway!!"

    That's a beautiful song by James Taylor, I've always really liked him.

    1. Hi Heather - thanks for your thoughtful comment. And I like your motto - alot.

      I've always liked James - had a crush on him when I was 16 and, now that I'm 56, I listen to him to center me!

      Talk to you soon - Lois

  2. Very pretty music. I usually start my day with a short meditation to help me focus on what's important for the day. I have a very unreliable memory, so I find it easy to let go of anything negative. Somethings don't work out, but I've been lucky enough to keep hold of the most important things in my life and everything else I can live with out (as long as I can still chase those things, after all, the pursuit is the best part!).

  3. Hello Charmaine - love your comment. Thanks for being here! Lois